"I can't stand the thought of Frances becoming the miserable, self-destructive, death rocker that I've become"

It's great when rock stars who drink and have done drugs and maybe still drink, get together to create "rock royalty"..... Congratulations and good luck.









(It's funny how Frances did become that "death rocker" and who encourages her to be that way).

All the warnings from the punk rock 101 courses over the years...

AN IMPORTANT NOTE TO RACIST TROLLS AND ANONYMOUS PEOPLE. If you seriously think that by trolling this blog with the N word (just because MSI does it and you think that makes it OK) you will get me to shut down my blog you are sadly mistaken.

I have not installed a tracker but I have contacted Blogger, and their policy is that they DO NOT allow hate speech. If you want, I can install a tracker. This blog isn't so high traffic that I won't know who said what and when.

I have never deleted or censored posts, but I will report your ISP if this continues.

My other option is to take away anonymous comments but I would rather not do that. If you MCR/MSI defenders think you will make me close the blog down by using hate speech that they condone though, you are very wrong.

Now onto my original post which was this,

There are a few things I have to say. First of all someone came on here and said that you were not anonymous. As far as I know you all are anonymous. I don't have a tracker or anything, I never had and I never will. You can say whatever you want up to a point, which I will get to later. As for the person saying they knew who you are, or they know who I am, I can assure you they are lying. I don't even know who most of you are and I don't care, as long as you get to vent and say what's on your mind. Disagreeing is fine too. I don't delete comments. I know some people are still fans of MCR and MSI.

I am not one of Gerard's exes or friends, thank God. I am just like most of you, a disappointed ex-fan of MCR. Gerard wouldn't know me and I can assure you he doesn't care what I think. He has enough people paying his bills and paying his and his wife's extravagant LA lifestyle upkeep. Trust me, he doesn't care who I am or who you are or what we aren't buying anymore.

I also do not care who he marries or has sex with or cheats on or if he hooks up with groupies or whatever (although I do think that makes him a total loser but that is just one opinion).... It does show how he feels about women. I don't even really care about MCR or what they are doing these days. But it's fine if you guys still want to talk about it, like I said I don't censor or delete. I don't care if he has pink hair or brown boots. (Even though the pink hair made it even more obvious that he becomes the person he is hanging out with. There is no real Gerard.).

All I care about is the fact that he and his racist, sexist friends and wife are still having the nerve to talk about feminism and call themselves feminists. Gerard is still having the nerve to think of himself and proclaim himself as not bigoted or ignorant. I just wish that the two of them specifically would stop presenting themselves as something they are not because I think that sends a destructive message. If they want to be sexist and racist, that's their prerogative. But to be such a sexist pig and then to preach about feminism is wrong. It's like Sarah Palin calling herself a feminist. You can't redefine terms just because you feel like it. I don't care about LynZ flashing her crotch or what she wears. The only problem is her still calling herself a feminist when all she has done is flash her crotch and marry a rock star to get where she is.

That leads me up to the recent other nasty anonymous people I've had here. I deeply apologise for the anonymous people who are calling some of you racist terms. I don't read here as often as I used to but a friend who still comments here, also a few other people have emailed or messaged me to tell me. Some anonymous people have been calling some of you the N word. I deeply apologize. I don't like to delete comments but that is hate speech and harassment and if you want those comments deleted just tell me where they are and I'll do it. I can't have hate speech like that on this blog. I obviously don't condone it or I would be a fan of MSI.

This proves the point most of us have about MSI. Just because some person or some shitty band thinks it is alright to use hate speech and bigotry, DOES NOT MAKE IT OK. Just because one person or some shitty band thinks those words are funny or that they don't mean anything DOES NOT MAKE IT RIGHT. And just because some person or some shitty band thinks that you shouldn't be hurt and offended by hate speech DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE WRONG TO FEEL THAT WAY.

That is what MSI and Gerard do not understand. You can't redefine words or tell people that they should just deal with being called things or treated that way just because THEY think it is OK.

I am against censorship and MSI can say whatever they want. I don't have to listen to them and I don't. But, MCR and Gerard proclaim themselves anti bigotry and anti sexist and that is where the problem is. That was proven by the bigoted anonymous person on the last blog. I apologize for them.

an emasculated, infantile complain-ee..

In the time since I posted last, Gerard rented a monkey for LynZ, totally forgetting his support of PETA and animal rights. Jimmy Urine declared Gerard his best friend. The Black Parade Is Dead came out and everyone in the band thanked everyone, except Gerard who thanked LynZ, and then his parents as an after thought. Gerard moved to LA where he was seen with his new "posse" of friends, meaning LynZ, Jimmy Urine and his wife. A few more interviews came and went where he promoted MSI. And recently he wrote a message to MySpace trying to say how everything was cool with the band, yet what it really comes down to is Frank is touring with his other band, Bob just got our of surgery, no mention of whta Mikey is working on, and he doesn't know where Ray is. He also hinted that he is going to go see an upcoming MSI show, which is funny because of all of LynZ's protests that she doesn't want fans to go to their show just to see Gerard.

I feel really bad for the rest of the band now that Jimmy Urine and LynZ are Gerard's best friends. Didn't his band see him through the worst times, when he was suicidal didn't they pull him up from rock bottom? Now they are tossed aside for "inspirational" MSI.

Have I forgotten anything? I think there was more but I can't remember it.

This is mostly just to give you all some new space to talk.

It's really good to know that there are people out there who see through their pathetic facade.

"Courtney, I'll be at your altar. Please keep going Courtney..."

If this post seems like it's all over the place I'm sorry. It is kind of pieced together from various different emails and buzznet messages I got.


Apparently LynZ is not happy with the attention she's getting from being Gerard's wife.

"It's f---ed up and totally offensive that my name has totally disappeared and I am now referred to as 'Mrs. Gerard Way,' " Lyn-Z – who married Way on September 3, 2007, following the final date of the Projkect Revolution tour – told Kerrang! It's f---ed up that little kids want to come to my show to see Gerard standing at the side of the stage. And I don't want to have anything to do with it."

ORLY? Then why did she and Gerard tour together and push their relationship on the public for months, if this was going to be such a problem. You can't believe that they didn't expect it. I will once again quote a friend of mine with permission,

But surely if she meant any of that, no one would have chosen to to the MSI/MCR tour--why go as an opening act if you don't want to be associated?--and definitely would not have used her body as a billboard for the fact that she was married to the singer of a hugely popular band? And if it's true that Gerard feels the same way, then he would not have chosen MSI to support MCR, he would not have spent an entire, what, nine months? talking them up, would not drop his marriage into every interview, and definitely there would not have been a summer of: sharpie references, product placement (the underwear,) showing off of hickies, onstage shout-outs, interviews about how MSI supported them from the beginning and the rest of that whole thing?

Actually, MCR has become product placement for MSI so this whole thing seems very insincere.

It makes me a little mad that I was late getting to this and other people already answered it better than I could answer it. ;)

LynZ said,
"One of the biggest reasons that I do what I do, is for other women and for other girls,

Wait, seriously? With lyrics like,

"5 Year Old Pantyshot
I Can See Between Her Legs
5 Year Old Pantyshot

5 Year Old Mother Fuckin Pantyshot Cant Complain
I Didnt Even Touch Her So I Cant Be Blamed
5 Year Old
Pantyshot In My Brain
My Life Has Meaning When She Spreads Her Legs"

and

"Back off you little shits
Gnawing at my fists
I see they breed you by the boatload

Back off you little whores
Get 'em on all fours"

Those aren't even just a fraction of the sexist, misogynist things they write in their songs and all of a sudden Lyn Z is saying that this is for women and other girls? Also, even after she admitted that she doesn't even bother to play her instrument, she just does backbends and dances, and that is for women and other girls? Just who is she trying to fool?

then suddenly, when I got married, that was taken away from me. I'm suddenly 'wife of blah blah blah.' I think it sends such a bad message to girls because it wipes out all the hard work that I did.

What hard work? She admitted herself that she can't play the bass and doesn't want to learn to improve. She admitted herself that her main talent was doing backbends.

And if she's so concerned about the messages she's sending to little girls, why is she in Mindless Self Indulgence with lyrics like

Every single one of you goddamn bitches ain't never gonna give me no love
I'm telling you every single one of you goddamn bitches ain't never gonna give me no love
Every little thing you do - rock my
Every little thing you do - fucking hole
Little teenage bitch

He [Way] doesn't want that for me either. The questions are neverending, and it's disgusting."

Then why the sharpie messages and the over the top public propaganda of their entire relationship? He pushed their relationship on the audience more than she even did, it was probably his decision to take them on tour, he wore their merchandise and made sure everyone knew it, he talked about MSI in interviews, he made up lies about how they "supported MCR from the beginning", he spent months talking about his wife and her band.

They must think their fans are so stupid. The sad thing is that many of the fans who can't htink for themselves are going to not even think about this.

Then later in Rock Sound she said,

To become "wife of" is without a doubt the most fucking heartbreaking thing that could ever happen. You can work your asses off for 10 years, and you can be amazing,

I hope she's not saying that she's amazing because in the last few interviews she admitted that she sucked and she was fine with that.

but at the end of the day you simply will be who you are married to. Is this nineteen fucking fifty three?

Whose fault is that? And if MSI is so upset that they are getting known for their association with MCR (yeah sure, we definitely believe that)! then why is Steve Righ? wearing a Mikey Fuckin Way t shirt to top it all off?

Role: inspirational bassist and visual artist

"Inspirational" now means "I can't be bothered to learn how to play"?

Now months ago I did
a post about Gerard just wanting to fit in with his new "hardcore" friends and that's why he was acting like such a douche on stage. I said that even before he did the "I want all the females to moan for me" act that he did. Some ex fans thought that Gerard was trying to be like Jimmy Urine. I thought so too but many didn't believe me.

Yet here is Jimmy Urine making the crowd moan for him two years ago.

And again.

and again. (Notice the description of, "Jimmy Urine gets the 99% 13 year old audience laid by doing an interactive sex exercise at the Pheonix on July 23, 2006.")

I guess I don't have to say anything more about that.

With that I leave you some of the lyrics of the "inspirational" Mindless Self Indulgence,


"Now tell me the truth. Be honest with me. Be honest with me. Do I look gay in
this outfit? Ok, fff. Thank God. I thought I looked like a faggot."

"This goes out to all my whores
This one goes out to my whores
Niggers and negros"

"I Suffer Again Because Me Want To Fuck And Touch
And Fuck And Touch The Children
Me Fucked For Life
Me Grow Old And Then They Dont Want Me But I Still Want Them
Dey Want Me Fucked Cuz I Be Da Monstar Getting Down In My Evil Ways "

Thank god they are out there doing this for women and little girls!

Sorry LynZ and Gerard, but you brought this on yourselves and if you say that you didn't expect this, then either you are completley stupid, and you are lying and you think that all the fans are completely stupid.

"ethics involved with independence and the embracement of your community..."

This is something that someone linked to me out of interest in feminism and it sounded alot like it could be related to Gerard and how he has behaved on stage towards women. Synecdochic on Livejournal has written something that everyone with an interest in feminism should read. Even if you don't agree with it, it's a good read and an eye opener. She calls it "Don't be That Guy", and even without realizing it she explains the frustration that some of us have with Gerard over his recent treatment of the young girls and women in his audience. THE PERSON WHO WROTE THIS ENTRY IS NOT GIVING HER VIEWS ON MCR OR GERARD AT ALL. SHE PROBABLY DOESN'T EVEN KNOW ABOUT IT. I just got a link to the entry and thought it sounded like a message that needed to get out about how certain men who THINK they are treating women well when they are actually treating them like objects, acting like creeps and then just dismissing their concerns. It made me think of Gerard and what he owes to the fans who felt humiliated over his "moan for me" to the little girls and women in his audience. If I could say anything to Gerard, I would say a lot of things, but this would be at the top of the list.

I'm going to quote some of it because these are things that I wish Gerard understood about how some of us feel about his "moan for me" bit. And why explanations and excuses would not be enough.

Women -- in person and on the internet -- hear, day in and day out, implicitly and explicitly, that their experiences don't count. That they need a man to come along and Explain Things. (...)

If you are ever, ever in a conversation about anything relating to gender expression, sexism, male/female relations, etc, and you catch yourself thinking, "She doesn't understand, and I need to explain this to her," stop. Walk away from the discussion (if it's online) or shut your mouth (if it's in person), and ask yourself: is it really that "she doesn't understand"? Or is it that she's coming from a place so different than yours that you feel like she doesn't understand your position? Do you think she doesn't understand your position because she doesn't agree with your position?

In the case of clear-cut facts, there is an objective truth: you can reasonably expect to find the "right" answer. When it comes to personal perception of the world around you, there is no right answer. There's my right answer, and there's your right answer. Resist the urge to explain to women how "the world works". No, really. Women know how their world works. For us, it works kinda shitty at times, thanks.

And again, if you see another guy trying to explain to a woman that she's "wrong" because "that's not how the world works", pull him aside and say "dude, that's coming across as skeevy and patronizing. Here's why. Listen to what she's saying, okay? It's true for her, and she doesn't need you telling her how things 'really' are."

You hear that? We have the implicit right to be upset over it, and just because you don't agree that your behavior is upsetting does not mean that it is not. Gerard singled women out for that, he said, "just the ladies," those were his exact words. Well some of us "ladies" have feelings on those things and just because he has a different view does not make us wrong.

This relates even more to Gerard's behavior towards the women in his audience...

Having gotten this far, it's time to reiterate: You are going to fuck things up.

You are not bad or evil or wrong for fucking things up. You really aren't. The fail happens if you, when called on your fuckup, fail to recognize that your experience of the world is not the only experience -- if you say "that's not possible", or "but my (wife/girlfriend/best friend/sister/etc) doesn't think like that", or "but my (wife/girlfriend/etc) hasn't ever experienced that, so it must not exist". The fail happens when you take what people are saying to you and start coming up with arguments to counter and invalidate those experiences.

Everyone gets defensive. Everyone. But if you've said or done something to call down the dogpile, please stomp on the initial impulse to come out swinging, no matter how in-the-right you think you are -- because a basic fact of possessing privilege is that you have to be really careful to avoid anything that looks like you're trying to silence the people without that privilege. And just about any defense at this point is going to come across like you're trying to use your privilege to silence people.

It's okay to fuck up. I tell you three times. It's going to be a painful process for you, because you are probably going to get your skin torn off in the immediate reaction, but if you shut up, listen, and actually process and engage with the truth being conveyed by that dogpile, you will be able to ameliorate the damage caused your fuckup -- or at least not make it worse.

There are things you don't know. There are things you can never know. You can be told about them, and you can, as you start to open your eyes and observe and listen, start to see and hear them, but you can never experience them firsthand. It's okay if you don't immediately understand the true reality of women's experiences and perceptions about sexism, sexual assault, fear, history of being silenced, etc, etc. You're not going to viscerally get it when it's explained to you. You can start to understand, but it will never be your world the way it is for a woman. (Hell, it's not the same world for every woman, and that's an important point to remember too.)

You will learn to be able to see that truth, and you will learn to recognize it when it is spoken to you (even if it's whispered), and you will learn, slowly, that this is someone else's truth even if it isn't your own. But it's not going to happen overnight. When you fuck up, and accidentally behave in a way that invalidates or dismisses the perspective and experience and worldview of the women around you, apologize.

And then stop and listen to what is being said to you, and imagine, as hard as you can, that the world being described to you is your world, and work from there. Even if it's not your world. Even if it's not the world and the experiences of your wife/girlfriend/best friend/sister/etc. Don't be the guy who says "this can't be true, I would have noticed", because people are telling you -- loudly -- that it is true. Work from the perspective of: this is not my experience, but it clearly is her experience, and her experience is just as valid for her as mine is for me. Too many times, women speak up to try to educate men, and men say "you must have misunderstood" or "you must be imagining things" or "that's not possible". She didn't misunderstand. She's not imagining things. It is possible. You just don't see it, because you have the privilege of ignoring it if you want to. Failing to recognize it makes you That Guy.

That really says a lot.

Now also recently Lyn Z gave an interview. She touches on "feminism" in the first part and gives her own views on it. (This could explain why Gerard changed his views on women, since he seems to have no mind of his own and only does the same thing as whoever he is with). She admits that she is a "shit bass player" in her own words. She says she is "horrible" and "OK with that". Those are her words, not mine. Then she says "but do a backbend while you're playing the bass, I dare you". What does that have to do with music and musicianship? Well nothing. Because in part two which I linked up there, she says that real musicians bore her. She says that doing something is better than being GOOD at doing something. (That's strange because over the summer I remember Gerard giving an interview and saying that it didn't matter what you did, as long as you tried to be the best at it).

Apparently really skilled musicians "bore her to tears", again her words and not mine. What does that mean she's saying about MCR? Gerard says that MSI supported MCR from the beginning when they were a "baby band", so is she saying that they are not skilled musicians, or that they bore her to tears? Either way it doesn't sound like support. I guess Ray Toro is just "noodling around" on his guitar.

This is Brigitte, the same interviewer who had Gerard by the short hairs in her interview with him and now she is kissing Lyn-Z's ass and saying straight out that if you are not a good musician and you're in a band, it doesn't really matter. She used to be a good interviewer but now she is kissing ass, why? Is it because she knows if she gets Mrs. Way angry that Gerard will never give her another interview? That could be.

There is one other thing I want to say here. A lot of people have accused me of hating the band and having something personal against them. Thisis not true. I don't follow MCR anymore, not since Gerard for all intents and purposes killed MCR for me. But I get a lot of messages every week from buzznet people asking me to address this or that. A lot of fans feel like they don't have a voice. Or even worse they are afraid to say it in public, especially on BuzzNet where they will be bullied for their concerns and opinions. I have no problem with people bullying me and calling me names so my blog is the voice of the disappointed fans. Whatever you read on my blog is all stuff that people have sent to me and asked me to write about. In the beginning three people were contributing to writing this. Then it was just me. Now it's hardly me at all. Now it is just the massive amounts of messages I get. so pretty much these aren't even my words, but the words of others that need a place to vent and to be heard. That's what this blog is, it's the voice of the disappointed fans.

"I'm too much of an erratic, moody baby!"

For anyone who thinks that Gerard is the same to his fans that he ever was, this not so nice video proves that wrong. Watch it fast before it gets taken down. In case it does, here's what happens. In Curitiba on 2/16/08 Gerard is in the airport and a bunch of young girls are following him, saying hi, taking a picture, asking for his autograph etc. They are giggling and then a few of them ask him "can we take a picture Gerard!" And Gerard snaps "Can't you understand no! No!" Talking to them like they were a bunch of bad dogs.

Yes, like one friend of mine mentioned he was getting bothered in the airport, and that's not right, and that other people might have snapped like that too.
But ask yourself this. Can you imagine Frank Iero treating people like that? Can you imagine Gerard treating people that badly a few years ago? So whether or not he was in the right treating his fans like that (and they looked like mostly excited young girls), you know he wouldn't have acted like that years ago. And to this day none of the other people in the band would ever act out like that. And Frank gets as much of that kind of attention as Gerard does. He could have said, "I'm tired" or "I'm in a hurry, see you at the show." But instead he told off a bunch of little girls.

In fact you can see the other guys ARE there, and NONE of them act like Gerard did. They were all getting the same treatment and only Gerard mistreated his fans.

I wonder if Gerard is purposely trying to get rid of his young female fans by constantly insulting them. He really doesn't seem to like them anymore. I think this is because he wants to be considered more hardcore because of MSI. I was alerted to the fact that MCR changed their MySpace profile from "punk" to "metal". "Punk" usually means more like a state of mind, having a message and standing by your beliefs. What "metal" makes you think of is 1980's hair bands who were more worried about how their hair looked than the music, and about how much they were getting laid. That seems to be Gerard's aim these days. I think it's because of the MSI influence.

Even more alarming is a video where at the end of Mama, Gerard sings part of a Blondie song and then asks someone (I wonder who) to send him "giant bags of cocaine."

Even if he was joking, which I don't actually think he is, that's not something he would have joked about in the past. Now his addictions, which he used to talk abotu overcoming and tell his story to inspire other people who needed help....are a joke to him? I guess then so are the people he used to try to inspire.

Going back to MSI, Gerard can't seem to stop talking (lying) about how much MSI always supported them from the beginning.

If MSI supported MCR from the beginning, then what do you think of this video, where Jimmy Urine makes fun of MCR onstage and compares them to Hitler? There was also one interview where Jimmy Urine calls Gerard a fat panda while LynZ laughs. If anyone can find it post a link and I will edit the post to include it. I don't care what MSI thinks about Gerard, but Gerard constantly talks about how MSI has always supported them. He does nothing but lie anymore.

He knows he has more fans and money than he actually needs, so there's no chance of this behavior stopping anytime soon. I know a few of you agree with me when I say that I would rather have this band have broken up before turning into the joke that Gerard has made it into.